I don’t usually share fundraisers, and I don’t have any time for often vacuous fundraising campaigns, but this one is so far from vacuous, I don’t even know where to start. I’ve said time and time again that Cystic Fibrosis is a fucker of a disease. It takes everything both necessary and dear to you – your breath, your mobility, your dignity, and then your life. As I roll through life, it just keeps taking. The only thing it’s ever given me is an almost debilitating sense of fear.
So I’ll cut to the chase before I *totally* lose my shit.
I grew up with a lad called Matty Kidd. – one of those rough and tumble really good kids. We both loved metal, and even though he wasn’t in hospital too much growing up, he was one of those kids that left an impression. I was so surprised when Matty contacted me earlier this year. If I’m truthful, I’m always a little taken aback when a CF’er I haven’t heard from in a long time writes me or shows up at a funeral because the simple and brutal truth is that they’ve died – I just haven’t heard about it. The CF grapevine doesn’t work like it once did, because there’s only few of ‘old skool’ CF’ers left.
Matty’s partner Racheal had just given birth to a healthy son – he was a Dad! Matty sent me photos of him and his beautiful baby boy, and I cried tears of joy that Matty was still alive and that he now had a beautiful little family of his own. He’d been assessed for a double lung transplant, and while he had all the normal fears, he knew it was the best decision he could make for his young family.
Last week, Matty received his transplant but he suffered catastrophic complications shortly after and he died over the weekend. He leaves behind a shocked and bereft family and friends, and my beautiful friend Kate – also a double lung transplant recipient – has created a gofundme page. Ironically, Kate and I have rolled our eyes in the past at the entitlement of people who use crowdfunding for things that aren’t for something legitimate like medical expenses.
The reality is, Matty’s family need financial help as they plan his funeral, and to prepare for a future without their son, partner, father, brother and friend. I can’t even imagine having to face such a thing. If a potato salad can raise $55K on Kickstarter (I’m not even joking), then we can do better than $20K for real people. So I guess this is where I share the link. I’d be ever so grateful if you or anyone you know could donate to this worthy cause – https://www.gofundme.com/please-help-towards-jakes-future
Matty, you will be so desperately missed. Your memory will be kept alive for your little boy by everyone who was lucky enough to know you.